We live in so much more of a transient world than ever before. We relocate for school, jobs, for a spouse’s job, to care for aging parents or to be closer to family, and more.
Sometimes we are excited to relocate because it feels like a fresh start, but other times, it isn’t under the best circumstances and can be accompanied by a level of sadness for leaving a place you have called home for a period. One of the best pieces of advice I can give people about feeling good about their relocation is to bring a morsel of their previous home with them. Here are some tips for creating an environment that will help you settle more into your unwanted relocation and overcome homesickness.
Missing home? Bring comfort pieces into your relocation
Many times when we relocate to a new state, there is a nature aspect that isn’t present. For example, if you moved from a rural area to an urban one and were missing the expanse of the plains. Whatever images of your previous home you miss, find a photograph or painting that reminds you of it. Hang the art somewhere you can see it every day to remind you of home.
Become like a tourist in regards to your home state. Get a jar and collect sand from the beach, buy a flag or t-shirt or get a napkin from your favorite restaurant. These small mementos can remind you of home and create a conversation piece for you to be able to share the favorite things about your previous home with your new friends. Many times, you will meet people from your home state based on the mementos you keep.
Bring items from your old house and set them up in your new house. Making your new space have components that bring you comfort from your old place, refreshes your outlook. Seeing your pictures on the wall again…laying in your bed… relaxing after all the packing and moving is done, will help you settle in and feel more comfortable.
Angry over your relocation?
Get a routine
One strategy for overcoming your anger towards an unwanted relocation is to get back into a routine. Moving can be a stressful experience, so getting back on your regular day to day activities will help reduce stress and burn off anger. If you run, drive around and plot out your new path and go running. If you normally have Friday night pizza, look up some local places and give them a call. As a relocation specialist, I can help you get back into your schedule faster.
Reconnect to your passions
Once back to your day to day routine, reconnect with the things you loved about your home state. You may not be able to mountain climb in Oklahoma like you did Utah, but you may be able to find indoor climbing walls. Or, discover what your new location has to offer. You may find a new hobby or activity that you hadn’t considered before. Be open to what the locals are doing for fun. Being a Denver resident for over 20 years means you can ask me anything about the area. I’m happy to help you make connections here.
Suffering a relocation broken heart?
Gratitude is one of the best ways to cope with any loss. Look for the positive in the situation. Some people will journal five things every day they are thankful for to keep an optimistic mindset. Find the unique attributes of your new home and relocation benefits. Are you in a better financial situation? Able to spend more quality time with loved ones? Experiencing a new part of the country? By appreciating the good things, the ‘bad’ things tend to lose their pull on us.
One of the reasons we experience homesickness is because we feel lonely. Connecting to a community will help resolve this. Do you have a spiritual faith? Do you have a hobby? Do you love to watch sports? Finding others who share common interests and deeply held beliefs will help make your relocation transition easier. When we discuss your relocation, we will talk about these things, so you are indeed able to connect best with those communities.
What fun thing can you do to bring some laughter into your home? How can you treat yourself? Can you throw a party and invite your new neighbors? Can you get a BBQ grill or install a wet bar? Is there a wall you can paint to help your home feel more like yours? Think of ways to take ownership in your new space and you will feel your desire shift.
Relocation can be exciting and scary. As a relocation specialist, I work hard to make the process easier with less stress and less worry. I do this by really listening to what your needs and desires are, assisting with getting you connected to resources in the area as well as helping with paperwork and vendors. If you are relocating to the Denver area, I would like the opportunity to support your move and make it the very best possible experience for you. Call me today to learn more about what I offer and the Denver area real estate market.